- Be clear and specific about your concerns
- Articulate exactly what you disagree with and why
- Avoid vague complaints, as they are harder to address constructively
- Listen without interrupting
- Focus on understanding, not reacting
- Show respect for the professional’s perspective
- Use “I” statements to express your feelings
- Example: “I feel concerned about…” instead of “You’re wrong about…”
- This approach focuses on your experience rather than placing blame
- Ask questions to understand their perspective
- Demonstrate engagement and a desire to comprehend their reasoning
- Example: “Can you help me understand why you recommend this approach?”
- Explain your reasoning calmly
- Present your thought process logically
- Use evidence or personal experiences to support your viewpoint
- Be open to compromise
- Show willingness to find the middle ground
- Demonstrate flexibility and cooperation
- Acknowledge their expertise while asserting your needs
- Recognize their knowledge and experience
- Emphasize that you know your body/mind best
- Remember, it’s a collaborative relationship
- View yourselves as partners in your health or personal development
- Understand that differing views can be part of a healthy professional relationship
- Consider seeking a second opinion if needed
- A valid option if you consistently feel unheard or uncomfortable
- Approach this decision thoughtfully and professionally
- Choose the right time and place
- Bring up concerns during a scheduled session
- Avoid discussing serious disagreements at the very end of the session, in passing or informal settings
- Practice self-advocacy
- Remember that speaking up for yourself is a skill that improves with practice
- Be confident in expressing your thoughts and concerns
- Be prepared
- Gather relevant information or evidence to support your viewpoint
- Consider writing down your main points before the discussion
- Follow up
- After expressing disagreement, check in to ensure you’re still on the same page
- Discuss how to move forward productively
- Reevaluate periodically
- Assess whether the agreed-upon changes are producing the desired results
- Be open to further adjustments as needed
- Know when to move on
- If the professional relationship consistently fails to meet your needs, consider finding a new provider
- End the relationship professionally and respectfully
