Written by Harold Robert Meyer, MBA, SCAC and
Susan Karyn Lasky, MA, SCAC
We may get annoyed with our children, but we love them. Unfortunately, they may not really love themselves. Years of criticism, however well intentioned, and difficulty fitting in or meeting expectations, takes its toll on their self-esteem. You can help your child develop a healthy internal base for continued self-growth.
Children with ADD/ADHD are often independent and behaviorally challenged. Parents walk a tightrope between being a nurturing, loving parent and a demanding, controlling drill sergeant. Here are nine pages of practical advice that will make it easier to maintain harmony at home while successfully guiding your child towards appropriate behavior and self-management.
There is a delicate balance between taking care of yourself, and the giving of self that is integral to any real relationship with another person. Whether it is your partner, family of origin, friends, co-workers or children, relationships require certain boundaries to stay healthy. Learn to recognize and respect yours.
It is critical for parents to present a united front on the issues and “stick to their guns” about expectations, rules and compliance/consequences, although the style in which they discipline can vary. Consider what makes it difficult for you to discipline your child.
Contrary to popular belief, a dysfunctional home does not cause ADD; although such an environment doesn’t help. We now know that having a child or spouse with ADD can cause, or at the least contribute to, a dysfunctional home.
Anger is a natural response when our expectations are not met and we feel another person was, for whatever reason, wrong. Communicating our feelings is critical, but how we do this can make a tremendous difference in how well we are heard.
Bullying and teasing are found in just about any environment where there are children. It frequently occurs with children who have ADD/ADHD. They may get picked on for being “different,” or may pick on others due to frustration and/or difficulty reading social cues, combined with impulsive or aggressive behavior. Here are suggestions to help children stop these behaviors, and prevent others from bothering hem.
Management of children with ADHD is critical; it means providing the right structure, environment, behavior modifications and, in the classroom, appropriate teaching strategies. Without these, the child with ADD is truly learning disabled, in that he or she is not available for learning. Here are nine pages of tested advice on what makes a good parent-manager, and how to be a good teacher-manager.
You want your child to get as much out of his or her school experience as possible. Part of a successful outcome involves working with your child’s school. Here are seven pages of suggestions on how to get the most out of your often-frustrating experiences communicating with teachers, school administrators and school-based service providers.
If you have not done so lately, it is time to make another appointment with your child’s school. Don’t wait for Parent/Teacher Conference days; not only are they infrequent, but the teacher’s attention is split between parents.
Twelve pages of practical, do-able tips for reaching and teaching the child with ADD/ADHD. These strategies are critical for teachers, and are extremely helpful for parents and caretakers.
Children, adolescents, and teens with ADD/ADHD usually need special help to thrive in an academic setting. While their intelligence may be high (which it often is), and their capabilities strong, they face many challenges that can negatively impact their success in school. The more you understand these issues, the better you can help.
Many children with ADD/ADHD are very bright, and their parents are often extremely frustrated (and worried) by the child’s school performance. Many adults with AD/HD, even if successful, feel less than capable, due to poor grades when in school. So we ask, what should be considered success in school? There are four issues to consider…
Make sure your student benefits from the legal entitlements they deserve. These seven pages explain the law, including how it pertains to college and graduate students, along with the major challenges faced by students with ADD/ADHD and many specific accommodations that may make the difference between failure and success in an academic setting.
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Harold Meyer and Susan Lasky are both Board Certified and Senior Certified ADHD Coaches.
Fine Print
ADD and ADHD are used interchangeably for Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.
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